Is This What I've Been Waiting For?
So I think I'm stuck up in the Twilight zone. I've always loved romance novels and since I came to college I've never had any time to read them (or any other book for that matter). I read the series. I'm hooked. I'm getting my undying romance, my passion, and my devotion fix from a book. The sad part? I'm in a relationship. A 16 month old relationship. Edward intrigues me. I suppose maybe I'm just selfish but I read these books and romanticize about how great it would be to be loved like that. The passion of two bodies that nearly spark when they touch. The utter sweetness of a lover that croons and cradles you to sleep and then watches over you all night, keeping you safe and protected. The devotion and singular mindset of him who has denied the most beautiful beings in existence and wants you; and you alone.
Its a book.
He's a character.
The story is fiction.
Men such as this do not exist.
I keep having to remind myself of this factor. I can not compare my poor mortal flesh-and-blood boyfriend to a make up fictional model of perfection. Instead I try to focus on enjoying what I have. A love that approaches idealic, I suppose. He is my best friend and the one person I would prefer to spend most of my time with. Our futures are very compatible, we have nearly the same dreams and desires and similar life goals. Our kisses can be sweet, gentle, and slow, just as often as they can be desire filled. He's still a boy (who has a tendency to think love means picking on you more than anyone else) in many ways but I've had the joy of watching him mature into the man he's becoming over the past year. He actually wants to settle down with me. He's looking forward to raising a family with me; when before he met me he had dreams of traveling the world and remaining a bachelor for a long time. He's also driven to provide for me; college setbacks now have him training elsewhere for the purpose of being able to have a steady job and to take care of me sometime in the future. He has a tendency to scoff at my quiet pleas for passion though. Romance is not something he quite believes in. Love for him is a close friendship filled with caring and affection. Never spontinaity, deep and craving passion, or selfless romance. Deep down, I know I should be grateful. The flames of passion in romance often burn out and then what is left to catalyze the relationship? We'll have something left. This I'm certain of.
I'm just struggling to surpress the little girl images of love I've had in my heart for so long. My white knight I suppose, defending me and desiring me above all else, surprising me with his shows of affection, and knocking me off my feet in revealing the selfless restraints he has to put on himself to contain his desires. He's no Edward Cullen, but he loves me. This is my love story. I suppose there are no scripts for that sort of thing. I guess you could call us "intended". We've discussed our futures, our dreams, and our plans. I've made it clear to him I can't be married in college. He in turn has made it known that had I not said that, my left hand would have a ring on it by now. And so he waits. As do I.
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